50 Shades of Essential Oils - Essential oils and sex

50 Shades of Essential Oils – essential oils and intimacy

Our senses play a major role in experiencing, experiencing and perceiving love. Seeing and feeling are probably the most obvious, but also the most misleading. Taste and pleasure go hand in hand, so physical desire is stimulated and aroused in multiple ways. Hearing words and sounds, such as your loved one's voice, affects the intensity of your feelings. Still, smelling plays the most important role in deciding, whether you find someone sexually attractive. In this blog, we will discuss the combination of essential oils and sex.

What you smell sends powerful messages to your brain. The olfactory system is connected to the limbic system in your brain, the place where your emotions are controlled. When you smell something, which triggers your sexual stimulation, your reaction is determined. Thank you, olfactory system!

Hormones and smell

Women can literally smell compatible reproductive partners. Hormones affect how women process scents. This has interesting implications: a woman who meets a man while using hormonal contraceptives may find different odors attractive, than if she were not using contraceptives. If these partners want to have children at a later date and the woman stops taking the pill, she may find that she literally can no longer “air” her partner!

The science behind “sexy”

I personally find science very sexy and a man then, apart from smelling good, must also be intelligent to arouse my interest. Looking at the science behind “sexy,” however, we come to the field of pheromones. What are pheromones? In a word, “sex attractants”; small chemical communication molecules, which you send and perceive in others.

The word “pheromone” has its origin in the Greek words “pheran” and “horman,” and means “carrier of arousal. Pheromones are natural chemicals produced by insects, animals and humans to attract the opposite sex. Plants use it to attract insects, to distribute pollen. Essential oils contain phyto-feromones.


We humans also use pheromones to lure a reproductive partner, just like animals! What is interesting here is that male pheromones have a dual function in the animal world. They arouse sexual attraction, but at the same time make one aggressive. Pheromones make male lions so aggressive that they are able to kill pups.

Androstenone is a pheromone that men produce in their armpits. It stimulates excitement but also aggressiveness (mainly meant for competing males) to mark their territory.
Pheromones from the plant world, on the other hand, have a calming and balancing effect on us humans. Therefore, it is wise to take advantage of this. Hooray for essential oils!

Aphrodite's Secret

Essential oils for increased libido

I've heard it many times usually in a private question after a workshop, “Is there an oil I can use as an aphrodisiac? Something that helps with the sex drive?” A happy and fulfilled sex life is very important for the overall well-being of both men and women. We connect with each other through intimacy and sexuality. Sex releases endorphins and triggers feelings of happiness. But what about that in reality, or should I say adult reality with a committed relationship? Especially when a busy job and/or small children come along with it, a sizzling sex life can be more than a challenge. Fatigue, stress, worry and sometimes additional physical problems such as hormonal imbalances (e.g., low testosterone), thyroid problems and also depression result in low libido.

Fortunately, nature has a solution for us here!

For thousands of years, aromatic oils have been used to increase sexual attraction. The modern perfume industry also capitalizes on this. But do synthetic fragrances work? No, they don't work. Studies have shown, that synthetic fragrances do not affect human emotions like natural fragrances can. Synthetic perfumes are often mixtures of many different scents that confuse your olfactory system. More importantly, natural fragrances can literally increase blood flow in sexually excitable tissues such as penis and clitoris, and just by smelling them!

So how do we use these oils?

Natural scents and pheromones are best applied to large areas of your body. The warmth of your body changes the scents and mixes them with your own. Your personal “scent signature” is a complex mixture of pheromones, skin oils, sweat, hormones and the 40 million skin cells, which you release every day. Ideal, therefore, is the use of essential oils in the form of a massage oil that you apply to your chest, arms and sometimes legs.

Armor's Secret

Of course, you can use essential oils in your diffuser in the bedroom to create an erotic atmosphere and stimulate sex.

DIY in the bedroom

Essential oils also offer themselves as no other means of making your own massage oils and lubricant (lubricant). To make a massage oil, you can use almost any neutral base oil as a base. I prefer to use jojoba, almond and fractionated coconut oil.

Some essential oils such as peppermint, black pepper, clove or cinnamon have a tingling effect on the skin. You can use this for an erotic massage oil, but also think about ice cubes with some drops of essential oil, for example, or how about chocolate with peppermint or wild orange that you melt and drip on the skin after cooling a bit? Do be careful with this to avoid burning and discuss it with your partner first. Pain is not sexually stimulating for everyone.

If you make your own lubricant, stick to edible-quality coconut oil. Coconut oil has many benefits for the health of the vaginal skin and flora. And if you use a little cold swirled, organic honey in the mix … you know yourself what you can then do with this! For a lubricant, it is advisable to be very careful about possibly adding essential oil, better to leave it out of it altogether, especially if you have sensitive skin

So what oils do I use?

Never use essential oils undiluted on the skin at all, but mix them with a massage oil each time. Stop using an oil when your skin shows an undesirable reaction. Have you never used an essential oil before? Then it is wise to test how your skin reacts to it first.

Here I give you the most famous stimulating essential oils, which you can use well for your own blends for aromatherapy during sex and my most favorite recipes:

  • Black Pepper: a warming, spicy oil that supports healthy circulation. The aroma stimulates (food) lust, literally and sexually.
  • Cinnamon: warming and lust enhancing oil with a sweet and spicy fragrance. Cinnamon also supports healthy blood flow.
  • Sandalwood: an exotic fragrance, which creates a different aroma and therefore different pheromones in each individual. This allows you to create a very personal perfume. The aroma of Sandalwood supports emotional openness.
  • Ylang ylang: a floral fragrance that increases sexual desire. One of the most potent aphrodisiacs among essential oils. Uniquely soothing, cooling and euphoric at the same time, Ylang Ylang has a calming effect and supports healthy blood circulation. When sexuality causes tension and moments of stress, Ylang Ylang is soothing.
  • Rose: a sensual fragrance, emotionally good for opening the heart energy.
  • Jasmine: a floral fragrance, improves mood and energy, works great for women. Stands for strong relationships and removes nervousness and feelings of inadequacy.
  • Patchouli: a woody musk fragrance that balances the sex drive, excellent for men. Helps with being in the here and now and enhances relaxation and arousal.
  • Ginger: a warm, sweet oil that supports healthy circulation and stimulates openness in both men and women. Increases passion and lust.
  • Wild Orange & Lime: both oils are ideal in combination with other essential oils, they represent playfulness and fun and elevate the mood.
  • Clary Sage: a gentle oil that supports healthy hormone balance for both women and also men.
  • Lavender: what is Lavender actually not good for? Such a versatile oil, so powerful in its spectrum of action and yet so soothing. Lavender relaxes and nurtures and hence is ideal for any relationship

We are hosting a webinar with the theme “50 Shades of Essential Oils.” You will also learn an ear reflex massage technique during the webinar, which you can use to increase libido.

Are you inspired and want to get started with the oils?


Calypso's Secret

Love Potions

Love is in the air – diffuser mix
2 drops of Ylang Ylang
1 licorice Wild Orange
1 drop Sandalwood
1 licorice Cedarwood

Aphrodites secret – massage mix
9 drops Sandalwood
5 drops of Ylang Ylang
1 licorice Cinnamon
1 licorice Jasmine
10 ml of base oil

Super Sensual – massage mix
3 drops of Black Pepper
3 drops Peppermint
3 drops Passion
10 ml of base oil (on arms, thighs…)

Lot's of Libido – massage mix
3 drops each: Clary Sage, Whisper, Ylang Ylang
5 ml of base oil (twice a day under feet)
For men Whisper possibly omit or replace with Sandalwood.

Calypso's magic – massage mix
4 drops of Ylang Ylang
2 drops of Black Pepper
1 licorice Ginger
4 drops of Wild Orange
10 ml of base oil

Armor's secret – massage mix
12 drops Sandalwood
4 drops Jasmine
10 drops of Ylang Ylang
8 drops of Patchouli
50 ml almond oil

Luscious Love – edible body butter
1/2 cup coconut oil
1/2 cup cocoa butter
4 drops Peppermint
4 drops of Cinnamon
4 teaspoons raw organic honey.
Melt coconut oil and cocoa butter, allow to cool slightly, stir in essential oils and honey, refrigerate for hours, beat with hand mixer to creamy body butter.

Hot Chocolate love oil – hot body butter
3 tablespoons of almond oil
1 tablespoon of cocoa butter
1 teaspoon of beeswax
1 1/2 tablespoons of vegetable glycerin
1 teaspoon cocoa powder
1 teaspoon of honey
3 drops Peppermint or Cinnamon or Whild Orange
Melt almond oil, cocoa butter and beeswax, allow to cool slightly, stir in glycerin, cocoa powder, honey and essential oils, do not use too hot.

Lots of Libido
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