50 Shades of Essential Oils - Essential Oils and Sex

50 Shades of Essential Oils – essential oils and intimacy

Our senses play a major role in experiencing, experiencing and perceiving love. Zien en to feel are probably the most obvious, but also the most misleading. Taste and pleasure go hand in hand, so the physical desire is stimulated and stimulated in several ways. It horen words and sounds, such as your loved one's voice, affect the intensity of your feelings. Still it plays to smell the most important role in choosing whether you find someone sexually attractive. In this blog we will discuss the combination of essential oils and sex.

What you smell sends powerful messages to your brain. The olfactory organ is connected to the limbic system in your brain, the place where your emotions are controlled. When you smell something that triggers your sexual stimulation, your response is determined. Thank you, olfactory system!

Hormones and smell

Women can literally smell well-compatible reproductive partners. Hormones affect how women process smells. This has interesting consequences: a woman who meets a man while using hormonal contraceptives may find different smells attractive than when she is not using contraceptives. If these partners want to have children at a later date and the woman stops taking the pill, it is possible that she can literally no longer "breathe" her partner!

The science behind “sexy”

I personally find science very sexy and a man must then, besides smelling good, also be intelligent to arouse my interest. However, if we look at the science behind "sexy", we come to the field of pheromones. What are Pheromones? In one word: “sex attractants”; small chemical communication molecules, which you transmit and perceive in others.

The word “pheromone” has its origin in the Greek words 'pheran' and 'horman', meaning “bearer of excitement”. Pheromones are natural chemicals produced by insects, animals and humans to attract the opposite sex. Plants use it to attract insects, to distribute the pollen. Essential oils contain phytopheromones.


We humans also use pheromones to attract a reproductive partner, just like animals! Interestingly, male pheromones in the animal world have a dual function. They arouse the sexual attraction, but at the same time make them aggressive. Pheromones make male lions so aggressive that they are able to kill the pups.

Androstenone is a pheromone that men make in their armpits. It stimulates excitement but also aggressiveness (mainly intended for competitive males) to mark their territory.
Pheromones from the plant world, on the other hand, have a calming and balancing effect on us humans. That is why it is wise to use it. Hooray for essential oils!

Aphrodite's Secret

Essential oils for more libido

I've heard it before, usually in a private question after a workshop: “Is there an oil that I can use as an aphrodisiac? Anything that helps with the sex drive?” A happy and fulfilled sex life is very important for the general well-being of both men and women. We connect through intimacy and sexuality. Sex releases endorphins and induces feelings of happiness. But what about reality, or should I say adult reality with a committed relationship? Especially when a busy job and/or small children are added, a sizzling sex life can be more than a challenge. Fatigue, stress, worry and sometimes additional physical problems such as hormonal disturbances (eg low testosterone), thyroid problems and also depression result in a low libido.

Fortunately, nature has a solution for us here!

For thousands of years, aromatic oils have been used to increase sexual attraction. The modern perfume industry is also responding to this. But do synthetic fragrances work? No, they don't work. Studies have shown that synthetic fragrances do not affect human emotions the way natural fragrances can. Synthetic perfumes are often mixtures of many different scents that confuse your olfactory system. More importantly, natural fragrances can literally increase blood flow in sexually excitable tissues such as penis and clitoris just by smelling the fragrances!

How do we use these oils then?

Natural scents and pheromones are best brought into contact with large parts of your body. The warmth of your body changes the scents and mixes them with your own scent. Your personal “smell signature” is a complex mixture of pheromones, skin oils, sweat, hormones and the 40 million skin cells you shed every day. Ideal is therefore the use of essential oils in the form of a massage oil that you apply to your chest, your arms and sometimes also on your legs.

Armor's Secret

Of course you can use essential oils in your diffuser in the bedroom to create an erotic atmosphere and to stimulate sex.

DIY in the bedroom

Essential oils also offer themselves like no other means to make your own massage oils and lubricant. To make a massage oil, you can use almost any neutral base oil as a base. I prefer to use jojoba, almond and fractionated coconut oils.

Some essential oils such as peppermint, black pepper, clove of cinnamon have a tingling effect on the skin. You can use this for an erotic massage oil, but also think of ice cubes with a few drops of essential oil or how about chocolate with peppermint of wild orange that you melt and let it drip onto the skin after cooling down a bit? Be careful with this to prevent burns and discuss it with your partner first. Pain is not sexually stimulating for everyone.

If you make your own lubricant, stick with food-grade coconut oil. Coconut oil has many benefits for the health of the vaginal skin and flora. And if you use a little cold-flung, organic honey in the mix… you know what you can do with it! For a lubricant it is advisable to be very careful with the possible addition of essential oil, it is better to leave it out completely, especially if you have sensitive skin

Which oils do I use?

Never use the essential oils undiluted on the skin, but always mix them with a massage oil. Stop using an oil if your skin shows an unwanted reaction. Have you never used an essential oil before? Then it is wise to first test how your skin reacts to this.

Here I give you the most famous stimulating essential oils that you can use well for your own mixtures for aromatherapy during sex and my most favorite recipes:

  • Black Pepper:  a warming, spicy oil that supports healthy blood flow. The aroma stimulates appetite, literally and sexually.
  • Cinnamon:  warming and lust-enhancing oil with a sweet and spicy scent. Also cinnamon supports healthy blood flow.
  • Sandalwood:  an exotic scent, which gives each individual a different aroma and therefore different pheromones. With this you can create a very personal perfume. The aroma of Sandalwood supports emotional openness.
  • ylang ylang:  a floral fragrance, which increases sexual desire. One of the most powerful aphrodisiacs among the essential oils. Uniquely soothing, cooling and euphoric at the same time, works Ylang Ylang soothing and supports the healthy blood circulation. When sexuality causes tension and moments of stress, Ylang Ylang soothing.
  • Rose:  a sensual fragrance, which is emotionally good for opening the heart energy.
  • jasmine:  a floral scent, improves mood and energy, works great for women. Represents strong relationships and takes away nervousness and feelings of inadequacy.
  • Patchouli:  a woody musk scent, which balances the sex drive, excellent for men. Helps with being in the here and now and enhances relaxation and arousal.
  • Ginger:  a warm, sweet oil that supports healthy circulation and encourages openness in both men and women. Increases passion and lust.
  • Wild Orange & Lime: both oils are ideal in combination with other essential oils, they stand for playfulness and fun and elevate the mood.
  • Clary Sage: a gentle oil that supports a healthy hormone balance for both women and men.  
  • Lavender: where is Lavender actually not good for? Such a versatile oil, so powerful in its spectrum of action and yet so soothing. Lavender relaxes and nurtures and is therefore ideal for any relationship

We are giving a webinar with the theme “50 Shades of Essential Oils”. During the webinar you will also learn an ear reflex massage technique, which you can use to increase libido.

Are you inspired and do you want to get started with the oils?


Calypso's Secret

Love Potions

Love is in the air – diffuser mix
2 drops Ylang Ylang
1 drops Wild Orange
1 drops Sandalwood
1 drops Cedarwood

Aphrodites secret – massage mix
9 drops Sandalwood
5 drops Ylang Ylang
1 drops Cinnamon
1 drop Jasmine
10 ml base oil

Super Sensual – massage mix
3 drops Black Pepper
3 drops Peppermint
3 drops Passion
10 ml base oil (on arms, thighs…)

Lot's of Libido – massage mix
each 3 drops: Clary Sage, Whisper, Ylang Ylang
5 ml base oil (2x per day under feet)
For men, omit or replace Whisper with Sandalwood.

Calypso's magic – massage mix
4 drops Ylang Ylang
2 drops Black Pepper
1 drops Ginger
4 drops Wild Orange
10 ml base oil

Armor's secret – massage mix
12 drops Sandalwood
4 drops Jasmine
10 drops Ylang Ylang
8 drops Patchouli
50 ml almond oil

Luscious Love – edible body butter
1/2 cup coconut oil
1/2 cup cocoa butter
4 drops Peppermint
4 drops Cinnamon
4 teaspoons of raw organic honey.
Melt coconut oil and cocoa butter, let cool slightly, stir in essential oils and honey, put in the fridge for an hour, beat with hand mixer until creamy body butter.

Hot Chocolate love oil – warm body butter
3 tablespoons almond oil
1 tablespoon cocoa butter
1 teaspoon beeswax
1 1/2 tablespoons vegetable glycerin
1 teaspoon of cocoa powder
1 teaspoon of honey
3 drops Peppermint of Cinnamon of Whild Orange
Melt almond oil, cocoa butter and beeswax, let cool slightly, stir in glycerine, cocoa powder, honey and essential oils, do not use too hot.

Lots of Libido